So on V-day this year, I met this guy when I was out and about (drinking in a bar). No initial chemistry, but after I couple of drinks, I did give out my contact info. We met for drinks and a "snack". The option of dinner was not offered, which is fine. But if we meet after work and I get a couple of drinks in me, I want food, a meal, dinner. So the date ended after about an hour and a half of small talk, and I went to get some food. Nice guy, good job, acts like a grown-up . . . but no chemistry and the conversation felt kinda like an interview. He's looking for date #2. Now polling some friends has led to the give the advice of give the guy another chance before you write him off. But I don't want to. I mean it stresses me out, the idea of more small talk and "working" to make conversation.
I wonder if people actually end up together when there's no sparks in the beginning and what the tipping point is. I get that people are nervous on first dates and all that. But I've had GREAT first dates when everything clicks and you have fun and you can't wait to see the person again. So I don't know how to settle for less and keep moving things forward. It just seems like you're dragging out the torture.
